Conquer your fear and achieve success:
- Control your thoughts. It’s possible to think about anything you choose. The best way to stress yourself is to think about stressful things. You’re not more effective when you’re afraid. You’re less. That doesn’t mean you should bury your head in the sand, but put yourself in a frame of mind that makes you most able to deal with the situation.
- What would you do if you WEREN’T afraid? My great friend, Beth, introduced me to this simple but powerful question many years ago. I have a post-it note on my refrigerator that says, “What would I do if wasn’t afraid?” If I am fearful about a decision, I look at that post-it, and it guides me to make the decision that my soul knows is in-line with what I really want. Ask this question any time fear comes into a decision – it will change your life!
- Breathe. Focus on your breath and slow your mind. Your mind will take reality and run wild with it. Focusing on your breath will calm your mind, and bring your perspective back to reality. Things are rarely as bad as they seem. When stress is at your doorstep, just stop and breathe.
- Imagine a positive outcome. Raise the level of your expectations. Your fear will melt away if you expect something positive to happen. Create a future that you find exciting and visualize your fear away. Repeat this exercise several times a day. Eventually, you’ll begin to believe it.
- Exercise. Physical exertion is an excellent way to burn away your fear and anxiety. Focus on what you’re doing – be mindful of your surroundings and, before you know it, your mind will be focused on exercise rather than fearful thoughts. Go for a quick run, a long walk, or lift weights. When you’re pleasantly out of breath, you’ll find your fear has lessened.
- Seek support. Talk to friend or a mentor. Choose wisely, however! Some of your friends and family are more supportive than others. Find someone who knows you well and will let you air your fears without feeding them. Online forums can be helpful, and you can remain anonymous.
Understand that change and fear go hand in hand. There’s a reason to be excited when you’re afraid: It’s very possible that you’re at the beginning of a great change in your life. Nothing seems to change when you’re comfortable 100% of the time. Be excited that you’re doing something that creates feelings of fear. Your life may be about to change for the better. Remember: Life happens outside of your comfort zone…GO FOR IT!
- Make a list of the benefits of moving forward. Create a long list of the positive results that could result from being brave. Think about what it looks like when you’ve finally arrived after pushing through that fear and FEEL what that will feel like. For example, if you’re starting a new business:
- Financial stability
- Doing something I love and enjoy.
- Being a successful entrepreneur allows me to work on my own.
- The things I feared about opening a business are all in the past!
8. Do it anyway. Fear is a lousy reason for not doing something. Be brave and resolve to do the thing you fear. Take one small step at a time – each time you conquer a fear, it will be easier the next time. Build your tolerance to fear by facing fear daily.
Do you allow fear to determine your actions? Fear is a self-imposed roadblock on the path to progress. Developing the skill to handle fear appropriately is necessary to move forward in any aspect of life. When you feel fear, you’re on the verge of making a significant change in your life. Get excited! Clay is a great way to identify the root cause for your fear – call us today to learn concrete tools to eliminate fear and go for your dreams!